“And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” -J.K. Rowling
Wanderlust, angst, confusion.
Ever felt those emotions? I have. And when I do, there’s a sense of just wanting to be still, to have everything stop, and feel balanced again.
The one word that quickly sums up all those things I wanted in my moment of peril is GROUNDED.
Of all the yoga words that fly about incense laden studios, grounded is the first that comes to mind, and appropriately so, as it is the beginning, the postures we commonly practice early in our classes.
How many times have you heard an instructor, or anyone for that matter, say to ground yourself? Have your ever just thought, ‘What the heck does that mean?’ Well, I have. I mean, it’s obvious that it has something to do with the big mass of dirt underneath our feet, but is there something more? I can easily get on the floor and lay down, and take a nap. Is that what it means?
The answer is, yes…and no.
Yoga lingo is confusing to many because it has this enigmatic quality, like we all walk onto the mat thinking we’re supposed to have some transcendent experience because we put our hands at our hearts and say,”Namaste” (I’ll address “namaste” in a separate post). And it’s somewhat true that there’s deeper meaning beyond just the physical postures, but how often do you get that explanation in a 60 minute Flow class? Pretty much, never. So, I’m here to demystify.
When I researched the dictionary definition of grounded, they all referenced something having to do with boats, shores and beaches. Essentially, the dictionary defines grounded as being stuck somewhere, mainly that of being stuck to a solid mass of land, far away from technology and people. It sounds kinda lonely, if you ask me.
I thought about this…and thought. And it hit me, that’s kind of what being grounded is: being anchored to something solid, that solid thing being who you are at your core, no matter how pretty, or ugly that core is. It doesn’t involve anyone else but you.
In that way, it’s kind of like being at rock bottom.
Typically, rock bottom is associated with being in a place where we’ve been stripped of all our distractions and fillers, left with nothing but the truth of who we are. It’s sobering and very real. It’s solid, like the earth. It’s not a place of feeling free and flowing and all hippie like.
It’s just who we are. No one else.
In my own experience, and in the countless sessions, classes and conversations I’ve had with those around me, I’ve found that people start feeling the most grounded and connected with themselves when they are at rock bottom.
Even the term “rock bottom” conjures up an image of being literally on the ground.
Rock bottom also tends to have a negative connotation in our society. But what if we shifted our thinking and recognized it as a place to start over, a new foundation from which to anchor ourselves and start sailing again?
So, are you ready to experience this IN your body?
Try this GROUNDING EXERCISE:
- Find a quiet place with a solid surface to rest on. Yoga mat optional.
- From seated on your knees, bring your forehead to the ground, and rest your arms along side your legs. This is embryo pose (a beginning place).
- Observe you breath. Can you breathe easily? Is it hard to breathe?
- Observe your mind. Are your thoughts racing? Do you feel self conscious? Do you feel emotional? What emotions?
- If you’re being really honest with yourself, right now, what is happening? What are you feeling?
- Take as much time here as you need, then slowly rise to a seat, take a deep breath, and open your eyes. Journaling optional.
If you’ve ever been in a yoga class and heard this described as a “grounding posture”, here is why: it literally brings you to the ground, in towards yourself, away from distractions. It anchors you to the space that’s right beneath you on your mat.
Being connected physically to the earth mirrors the connection to the core of who you are.
To be grounded does not necessarily mean you’re going to have it all figured out. It doesn’t mean your going to turn into Kathryn Budig and start doing some crazy inversion, naked, with nothing but Toe Sox on (no offense to Kathryn, as she is amazing and I follow her, but that’s her practice…not mine). It doesn’t mean you’ll walk out of the room enlightened, happy or sad.
What it does mean is that you’re consciously choosing to hit the restart button. It’s about having a strong sense of who you are, regardless of who you are.
It can be unnerving sometimes, being left with just you, but it is You.
So, hang out for a bit and see what lives in the space you are.
– Kelly SchauermannKelly is the founder of beulahwellness.com, CPRYT, Yoga Coordinator at Potentia Family Therapy, Inc and Yoga Teacher at Core Power