- crawl into my daughter’s bed in the middle of the night and not worry about waking her up from her slumber;
- tuck and re-tuck the covers over my son’s sleeping body while watching his chest rise + fall;
- never cease to be grateful for my amazing teacher+lifeguard husband who rescued my heart the day we met;
- not push aside the quiet nudges to reach out to someone when I am thinking about him/her;
- allow myself to sink into the pain of grief+loss+horror of those I do not know but with whom I still feel connected;
- cling to the promises of my faith to guide my way during the unfathomable;
- stop taking so much for granted only to be woken up by senseless tragedy;
- fight to keep blame+bitterness+fear from consuming my thought life by limiting my intake of news and social media;
- live a life that would honor the innocent souls whose lives ended way to early;
- live a life of courage reflected by those who put others’ lives before their own in the face of danger;
- continue to advocate for + treat those who seek healing from traumatic/distressing life events;
- respect the different ways people grieve and hold that space with tenderness;
- remind myself the only person I can change is myself knowing changes I make start the domino effect of change on a grander scale;
- pray without ceasing for the Sandy Hook Elementary Community;
because I can.
PS: Here are some excellent resources for talking with the young people in your life about tragedies put together by high school teacher, Larry Ferlazzo (hat tip Joanna Poppnick), and Brene Brown. I also love this post on what to say and what NOT to say to someone who is grieving. Brilliant!