If we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and have to hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving.
Brené Brown – Hustle for Worthiness
You are living your life on the sidelines when you:
- are trying to make sure everyone approves of you. “Everyone” has differing views, opinions, and needs, so it is exhausting to try and keep “everyone” happy. And since it is impossible to please “everyone”, the hustle is perpetuated.
- are hiding parts of your story for fear of rejection and judgement. Your story is YOUR beautiful mess and glory-of-a-story. When you deny speaking and living your story and delegate your worth to “everyone” else, you end up missing out on true connection, healing, and joy.
- are avoiding dealing with deep soul pain (or even surface wounds) for fear it will leave you alone or cause you more pain. Hustling for worthiness is an excellent numbing agent to fear, shame, pain, and keeps you from reaching out and asking for help. But this hustle is not sustainable and can become a gateway to some serious issues emotionally, physically, relationally, and in your faith journey.
- believing the lies that you are not worthy of love and belonging. This is the ultimate lie of shame. And when this belief is driving the motivation behind your thoughts and actions, then you are living life on the sidelines but deeply longing for a sense of worth and belonging – for which you are hardwired.
Our upcoming Hustle for Worthiness Encore Workshop on September 13 will help you develop a better understanding of what drives your own personal hustle. Register to soon to reserve your spot – it usually sells out quickly!
HFW at Potentia
At this workshop, we gather together to view an exclusive video of Brené Brown sharing her powerful research on perfectionism, shame, and vulnerability. Participants enjoy a lovely spread of food, a stocked art bar for creative inspiration, and a journal to use to take notes and document reflections.
What makes this workshop unique?
Hustle for Worthiness is different from our other workshops in that it intentionally does not have a lot of structure. This is our introductory workshop offered in a safe and casual community. The video we show is not available for purchase, so this is one of the few venues in which you can view it.
Who should register?
A lot of people attend this workshop because of their connection to me, one of the members of the Potentia team and/or their connection with Brené’s powerful message.
Friends, family, significant others are welcome. You do not have to be a client of Potentia to attend. Part of the power of this work is that it brings us together. Connection and community help you put into practice your shame resilience skills.
If you have mustered up the courage to come alone, please say hello. I think you’re freakin’ amazing! Just the act of showing up to a group where you will be seen is vulnerable and brave and proves you are tired of living your life on the sidelines.
Is this workshop only offered in San Diego?
For those of you in SoCal, I would love to see you at our next Hustle for Worthiness Workshop. It usually sells out, so make sure to register soon if you would like to join us.
If you do not live in the area, I am happy to connect you to someone in The Daring Way community who could facilitate a workshop for your community. Just send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Every time our Potentia team hosts this workshop, I find it truly magical to see people take in Brene’s words and feverishly write down the powerful nuggets that spoke to them. Expect to exhale deeply, laugh out loud, and elbow your friend knowingly. It happens every time!
Note: HFW alumni who want to bring a friend, your registration fee is on me. Just email me at email@example.com as I only have a limited number of slots available for alumni.
Desire to dig deeper? There are several other mini workshops coming up this fall that offer a more structured flow and will provide action and insight as you seek to refine your shame resilience skills.
And SoCal locals and out-of-towners alike, please consider joining us at one of our (re) define Courage: Dare to Show Up + Be Seen Weekend Intensives. The September workshop is sold out, but we still have space for our November 1-3 event. Our schedule for the 2014 Workshops and Weekend Intensives will be posted soon. Sign up for our (re) Define Courage email list to be the first to know about these dates.
Cheering you off the side lines of your life –
PS – And do not forget to register soon if you want to attend. This workshop is expected to sell out. And for every workshop you register for in the month of August, you receive an entry to win a $100 Anthropologie gift card.