I am ____________ (fill in the blank).
Many of you can finish the sentence above with a variety of descriptors and attributes. The core beliefs about your identity directly impact how you make decisions in your relationships, at school, work, and in life.
Culture, your family of origin, your faith community, schools, and places of work are constantly communicating messages about your worth and value.
Some of these messages are negative and challenge your ability to see your true worth and value.
And at some point, you start believing some of the negative messages shifting your lens on yourself and the world.
You are not alone. We all wrestle with negative core beliefs about our identity. Sometimes these negative beliefs are screaming at top volume between your ears while other negative beliefs are a quiet whisper that nag at you daily.
Regardless of the volume, inaccurate core identity beliefs can lead to unsafe and broken relationships, isolation, eating issues, addictions, chronic pain, depression, and anxiety.
Usually our negative beliefs come from experiences in our story and have taken root in our brains in an effort to keep us safe but end up working against us. Most of these negative beliefs fall into one of the following categories:
- I am not enough/I am not _____ enough
- I am not not safe
- I am not capable/in control
Our upcoming (re) define Identity workshop will help you:
- identify your ideal and unwanted identities
- build awareness on how you respond when you are seen in ways you desire and fear
- narrow down the core negative beliefs that are keeping you stuck in your relationship with yourself, God, and others, launching you into the process of reclaiming your true identity, worth, and value.
For those seeking to dig deeper and and get unstuck with struggles around your core identity, I recommend finding a practitioner certified (or in process of certification) in EMDR. This is a powerful psyhchotherapeutic approach that has changed the way I conceptualize cases, approach trauma and all distressing life events. You can find a local practitioner in your area here.
Space is limited at our upcoming (re) define Identity workshop on September, so register soon if you are interested.
We cover this material more extensively in our cornerstone Workshop: (re) define Courage: Dare to Show up+Be Seen (formerly Cultivating Courage).
Our September Weekend Intensive has sold out but there are still spots available in the Nov 1-3 weekend intensive. January dates for weekend intensives and weekly workshops will be going live soon. Sign up here to be the first to know about these dates.
Enjoy the last days of summer and all the best to those transitioning back to school!