(re) Define Failure: Rumble, Rise, Repeat

When: Spring 2019, TBD for an RDF Intensive
Loc: Potentia Family Therapy, Inc – 3160 Camino del Rio S #310
Cost: $800/$400 for (re) Define Alumni

Failure can be deeply painful and impact how we see ourselves and the world. In an effort to protect, you often end up living from stories that are not accurate or helpful. The shame of falls, fails and struggles can keep you from daring to risk, try, create, change or leap.

This workshop will help you get clear on the stories you are telling yourself and learn how to respond differently when failure and disappointment inevitably happen.

Based upon the research of Brené Brown, PhD and her Rising Strong™ methodology  – customized with Potentia’s experiential and neurobiological approach, you will walk away with an actionable plan to address and respond differently to the pain of past – and future – failures.

This intensive is also more than just learning about how to address failure. In this workshop experience we will also address anxiety, grief, forgiveness, perfectionism, and trust. It is an experience; a place where you are cared for and get practice speaking your needs in a community (yes – community is a good thing!) of like-minded individuals seeking to stop living a life based on stories that fuel doubt and fear. With an attention to detail in a larger group format for this redux version, this workshop experience will foster a space of courage, curiosity and connection.

If you have PPO Insurance, please contact Rebecca to discuss reimbursement options. For MFT Students, hours can count towards group therapy based on workshop size and your university requirements. 

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$800 for an individual spot
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$400 for alumni of any (re) Define workshop
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Contact us to inquire about special rates and payment plans.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Q: What will the format of  the Weekend Intensive be? How will the content be delivered?

A: (re) define Failurecontent is presented in a multi-media, multi-disciplinary format to support different learning style (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, etc.). Activities and content formats will include: brief lecture, video clips from Brené Brown, workshops, workbook, in-group discussion,  experiential group and break out sessions. No matter what kind of a learner you are, you’ll find ways to access the material that work best for you.

The Weekend Intensive format is three consecutive days usually Thursday – Saturday. Schedule flights after 5PM on Saturday and make sure you arrive in San Diego by 4PM on Thursday.

Q: Is this like group therapy? Will people be encouraged to get openly emotional?

A: (re) define Failure is a 20K overview of of the Rising Strong™ process run by a licensed therapist. here will be times when people will drop in, get real, and give light to parts of their story that are sensitive but YOU get to choose what to share and what to keep to yourself.  People may share their fears and deep vulnerabilities. Someone’s story may bring up raw emotion, for either the storyteller or someone hearing it. (That person could be you!) We do go deep, and yes, it is a therapeutic setting. Some moments during the weekend will feel hard. Some moments will feel light and freeing. It will all be powerful.

No one will goad, manipulate, exhort, or “force” you to be emotional in any way that isn’t coming naturally to you. The space we create is all about safety. You choose to participate and share as much or as little as you feel comfortable. Seriously, you can pass on sharing at any time and that is OK – in fact this is an important understanding of the workshop experience.

Q: Will this Weekend Intensive permanently “fix” my feelings of shame?

A: We are not promising a permanent “fix” to negative emotions, because negative emotions are simply a part of life. After (re) define Failure,  you will still experience the messiness of falls and failure. You will still struggle. You will now have actionable tools that make dealing with fears of failure, falls, and get clear when you are living from stories that are keeping you stuck and out of alignment with your core values. You will learn how to recognize the stories you tell right after a fall, how to rumble with the way you deal with anger and pain, and how to integrate these learnings into a life life practice. The fear of failure will have a little less power – and you will be less daunted to take the risks to honor your heart, your dreams.

Q: Can the secret to overcoming shame really be taught?

A: There is no secret to overcoming shame. Shame is a part of the human experience. Empathy is the antidote to shame. Self-Compassion is the key to empathy boundaries and sustaining empathy. Empathy and Self-Compassion are learned skills that each of us has to practice. In this workshop intensive, you’ll learn how the power of empathy to work on shame wounds. You’ll learn how to specifically practice empathy in ways that you keep you connected to yourself, to others, and to life, rather than letting shameful feelings take you out of commission. You’ll learn the role of boundaries (not walls) in healthy, thriving personal and professional relationships.

Q. What is the big deal about doing this work with a trained The Daring Way professional? Can’t anyone lead this work?

Good question. Choosing who will lead you in the launch of your life-long shame resilience practice is an important decision. Brené Brown and her team developed a very thoughtful and specialized training to ensure the highest ethical and professional standards are practiced when leading people in developing their shame resilience practice. Shame work is trauma work. Finding a clinician who is a part of The Daring Way community ensures you are working with someone who has developed both head and heart mastery of this important work.

Q: I’m terrified of people/being vulnerable with a group of people I don’t know. Can I still benefit from attending even if I’m super shy, socially awkward, suffer from social anxiety, or really don’t like sharing things with people I don’t know?

A: The beauty of being human is that we all can relate to the experience of feeling not quite good enough. While you may be shy, feel awkward, or even deal with socially-induced panic and anxiety, please know that everyone in the group will likely feel uncomfortable to some degree, at some point during the (re) define Failure experience. It’s possible that others in the group may share the exact same experiences with shyness and fear that you do. It’s possible that someone who appears more ‘outgoing’ or comfortable may find your extra level of vulnerability refreshing, because it gives them permission to be vulnerable, too. Break out sessions will allow for more personal sharing. We all need compassionate witnesses as we redefine our relationships to shame. You may feel awkward or uncomfortable at times, and you may even need to leave the room for a few minutes to breathe (and that’s okay), but we ask that you remain willing to be in the process.

Q: I’m not sure I feel good about spending money on personal development. Please help me justify this to myself.

A: We support you, as a potential client, in being financially responsible, and we’re glad you’re taking care to make sure this is a wise investment for you right now. This is a high-touch experience created to offer a specialized experience. Please inquire about payment plans and other options.

If after your initial call with Rebecca you feel like this is not the best decision for you, we will totally honor your desire to wait and refund your registration fee.

Q: I’m not sure I have the time to do this. How much time will I need to invest, and can you promise me it’ll be worth it?

A: We all live full lives with a lot of commitments and demands.

Our three Weekend or Weekly Workshop days are carefully planned to allow for learning, group work, individual work, and downtime.

For the Weekend Intensive, you can expect to be on site for workshop between the hours of 3:30PM-8PM on Thursday, 9-4/5PM on Friday and 9-1/3PM on Saturday. We recommend you use your out-of-workshop time for the completion of homework assignments, reflection, and self-care.

We trust you to attend this workshop when it’s the right time for you. If now is not the right time, there will be regular offerings available for you to choose from when the time is right for you.

Q: I don’t believe in this vulnerability stuff and I’m really resistant to sharing my feelings, or hearing about other people’s feelings. Is this workshop for me?

A: Resistance to vulnerability is very natural and very human. But we all experience vulnerability whether we acknowledge it or not. All of us experience resistance at some point during the process of examining hurts in our story. Your pre-session with Rebecca can help answer any questions or concerns you have about attending (re) define Failure. If after this meeting, you decide this is not for you, you will receive a full refund.

Have a question that’s not answered here? Email info@potentiatherapy.com

Interested in having us come to you for a Weekend Intensive on your turf, email rebecca@potentiatherapy.com with dates, size of group, budget and location details.

About Brené Brown

The Daring Way ™ method is based on the research of Brené Brown Ph.D. LMSW. Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past twelve years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. Her groundbreaking research has been featured on PBS, NPR, CNN, The Katie Show, and Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday.

Brené is the author of the #1 New York Times Bestsellers: Braving the Wilderness (2017), Rising Strong (2014), Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the way we Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (2012), the New York Times Bestseller, The Gifts of Imperfection (2010) and I Thought It Was Just Me (2007).

Brené’s 2010 TEDx Houston talk, The Power of Vulnerability, is one of the top ten most viewed TED talks in the world, with over 11 million viewers. Additionally, Brené gave the closing talk at the 2012 TED conference where she talked about shame, courage, and innovation.

The Daring Way™ and Rising Strong™ – the foundation of (re) Define workshops – are highly experiential methodology based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown. The method was developed to help men, women, and adolescents learn how to show up, be seen, and live braver lives. The primary focus is on developing shame resilience skills and developing a courage practice that transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. It can be facilitated in clinical, educational, and professional settings and is suitable for work with individuals, couples, families, work teams, and organizational leaders. Further information is available at www.thedaringway.com