Registered Marriage and Family Therapy

Melissa - Potentia

I am passionate about supporting people facing the messiness of life — its difficulties and its joys — with actionable tools and approaches that can provide sustained change. It is inspiring providing space so people can take risks and bravely learn to respect their whole story — on their own terms. Working with clients in a therapeutic setting is a great privilege. I know first hand that the healing journey can be uncomfortable. Facing fears and reflecting inward is tough work. Yet, this is where people can discover the pathway to freedom by discovering their own reserves of courage.

It is hard to live in this world and not question if our bodies, stories, and voices are “good enough.” You wonder if it is possible for  to be okay with who you are, and make different choices than you’ve made in the past. You struggle to make decisions that aren’t rooted in insecurity, leaving you  trapped in anxiety.

You may relate with some of the following common beliefs:

  • I can’t access what’s going on in my present life, all I can feel is anxiety.
  • I’m afraid if I am myself no one will love me.
  • I’m not good enough the way I am.
  • My life feels out of control and my body is one thing I can control.

I value helping people learn to understand and respect their whole story on their own terms. Together we can define your own goals for change and:

  • find solutions to feeling anxious and not good enough.
  • discover how to stop making the same decisions in relationships out of insecurity.
  • instill the hope belief you can be different than the lies of culture and those who betrayed you and you  life can be different.
  • help you find the courage to be okay with who I am.
  • Help you see you have choices other than what you have believing.

Working with clients in a therapeutic setting is a great privilege. I know first hand that the healing journey can be uncomfortable. Facing fears and reflecting inward is tough work, and we are often afraid of what we may find. Yet, this is where people can discover their own sense of courage as they process the most difficult parts of their lives. Working through these challenges in our past and our present allows us to have more choices in our future.

More specifically, I work with individuals who are:

  • struggling to live with the effects of trauma and challenging life experiences
  • desiring to work through past and present family issues
  • living with anxiety, depression, or shame that affects their daily lives
  • overwhelmed by an eating disorder, compensatory exercise/exercise addiction, body image issues, or obsession with health
  • desire healing from abuse, assault, and neglect
  • struggling with their worth and value while battling self consciousness
  • grieving losses either of loved ones or painful life circumstances, changes,  and disappointments
  • wanting to learn how to set sustaining boundaries in a way that allows for authentic connection and healthy relationships

Along with my own journey through therapy, faith is another avenue that has brought me great freedom. I enjoy integrating evidenced-based clinical approaches with faith for those who value a mind, body and soul approach.

Education:

MA, Marriage and Family Therapy — Bethel Seminary San Diego

BA, Psychology — San Diego State University

Specialized Training:

  • Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS) (Certification in progress)
  • EMDR Trained Therapist- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: Specialized therapeutic approach that can help alleviate the effects of traumatic and distressing life events such as abuse and shame.
  • Grief and Loss – Bereavement counselor working with terminally ill clients and their families in both pre and post bereavement
  • Premarital PREPARE/ENRICH- Certified facilitator of PREPARE/ENRICH, a researched assessment meant to help premarital couples discuss strengths and areas for growth before engagement or marriage.

Affiliations:

California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists

Like many native San Diegans, I enjoy being outside as much as possible, particularly in water. Growing up with 3 sisters inspired my love for women’s issues, humor, and deep authentic relationships. I also value learning about how to integrate my faith and interest in serving marginalized communities into my daily life.

I help teens and women struggling with disordered eating, trauma and distressing life events, anxiety, grief, life adjustments, identity issues, and shame. Together we can define your own goals for change.

Along with my own journey through therapy, faith is another avenue that has brought me great freedom. I enjoy integrating evidenced-based clinical approaches with faith for those who value a mind, body and soul approach.

Education:
MA, Marriage and Family Therapy — Bethel Seminary San Diego
BA, Psychology — San Diego State University

Specialized Training:

  • Certified Eating Disorder Specialist (CEDS) (Certification in progress)
  • EMDR Trained Therapist — Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: Specialized therapeutic approach that can help alleviate the effects of traumatic and distressing life events such as abuse and shame.
  • Grief and Loss — Bereavement counselor working with terminally ill clients and their families in both pre and post bereavement

Affiliations:
California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists

Like many native San Diegans, I enjoy being outside as much as possible, particularly in water. I also love sporting events, concerts, dancing, and experimenting with art and writing. Growing up with 3 sisters inspired my love for women’s issues, humor, and deep authentic relationships.

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Call Melissa at 619.819.0283 ext 5