Daniel Kim, LMFT, MFC #78887
The fact you’re looking into a therapist reveals that you care about your personal growth and healing.
So often the need for healing and change is seen as a shameful sign of weakness or deficit. The truth is, however, that your ability to embrace a need for help is an incredible sign of strength and courage. Many try to hide from our issues, deny them, avoid them, excuse them, project them upon others, etc. While such coping mechanisms may manage the problem and place a ‘bandage’ around it, they will never heal the problem. However, it takes so much heart and character to own our issues and seek help for them.
When you choose to sit in front of me, I honor your strength of heart by offering a safe and non-judgmental space where you are fully accepted for who you are – because it’s my firm belief that that is the only way people can truly heal. respect the faith you exercise by taking the time out of your busy schedule, drive a distance, pay hard-earned money, and sit in front of a complete stranger – with the hope for healing and change.
That hope deserves to be honored.
How does the healing and change process work? I first want to acknowledge that there are many ways to heal and many effective therapeutic approaches out there. The way I personally work with clients is by going “behind the problem” into the emotional wound(s) that have nurtured it. I believe that behavioral and relational issues are rooted in unresolved pain from the past which now fuel our current reactions, perceptions (of self and others), and choices.
Therefore, I seek to help clients experience freedom from the injuries they are carrying (and re-living) in the present, by compassionately working through these burdens so you may live up to your God-given potential in your life and relationships.
I have extensive experience working with pastors, ministry leaders, parents, married couples and college students who are struggling with low self-worth, unresolved trauma/PTSD, addictions, and compulsive behavior, grief/bereavement, and relationship issues.
My therapeutic approach is a continual integration of the following influences:
Internal Family Systems therapy: an non-pathologizing and respectful approach to healing trauma, mood struggles and addictions – which views each individual’s complex internal system made up of many protective parts that are often in tension with one another; some are injured while others try to cope with the injury. Therefore, un-burdening these parts-of-self is the goal for healing and change.
EMDR (Eye Movement De-sensitization Re-processing) therapy: a trauma-informed approach that treats the mind as an information (memory) processing system… Maladaptively-stored, negative events in one’s life lead to unhealthy thinking, feeling, and coping in the present. Therefore, adaptively reprocessing such memories can free an individual from the lingering pain and emotional reactivity based in these memories.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: an approach that treats all presenting issues in couple/marital relationships as emotional disconnection. Therefore, the goal is to emotionally re-connect couples through first de-escalating their negative cycle of interaction and then increasing partners’ emotional accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement.
- EMDR Trained Therapist (Part 1 & 2) — Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is a therapeutic approach that facilitates healing from the impact of traumatic experiences
- Emotionally Focused Couples Training: Externship + Core Skills 1 & 2
- Grief + Loss at San Diego Hospice
MA, Marriage and Family Therapy — Bethel Seminary San Diego
BA, Psychology — University of Michigan (Ann Arbor)
Memberships and Affiliations
I have been married for 13 years, and my wife and I have two young boys. I grew up in Michigan and California, and I enjoy football (everything about it) and spending quality time with friends and family.
Call Dan at 619.819.0283 ext 7