As we wrap up 2019, we decided it would be fun to list out the Top 10 Favorite Links from 2019 shared in our weekly Every Day Human email that goes out every Friday, told to us by our amazing email community! Scroll down to view them, along with some other favorite resources by our Potentia Therapy team.
Top 10 Links From 2019
- this article that lists out 36 different questions to ask your partner in order to fall in love with them all over again.
- this educational article on gaslighting, what it is and what to do if you figure out it’s happening to you.
- this article that lists out 4 habits that are sapping your brain power, written by a Neuroscientist.
- this post on what a “Noticing Wall” is and why you should create one for your kid.
- this article on Anna Kendrick’s break up story and why it’s an important point about setting boundaries in relationships.
- this article on why some people are always late. Hint: It’s not always rudeness or scattered-brain behavour!
- this illustration that lists out four different ways we can parent ourselves.
- this article on how to break the dangerous cycle of loneliness.
- this list of 6 toxic relationship habits most people think are normal.
- this video of Brené Brown discussing #BravingTheWilderness.
Staff Quotes on Reflecting
Reflecting is not something that can be done in a rush. Even just a daily practice of a quick thankfulness list can make a huge difference in starting to be more reflective. – Andee Woolf, LMFT
While part of us may desperately want to change and move on, it’s important to acknowledge and honor all that our system has done to keep us afloat and all the years it’s taken us to get to the place we are now. – Holly Kelley, LMFT
Reflecting can be a difficult task if we don’t first know how to pay attention to the present moment and be aware of our judgments, agendas, and biases. Cultivating a practice of regular reflection, stillness and silence is important if we are to reflect with honesty and purpose. So often, our reflection is directed by an unspoken agenda or goal. Mindfulness has been defined as paying attention on purpose to the present moment without judgment. When we are able to be mindful, reflecting on our past can be done with more clarity and intention. One of the tools that can help in becoming more mindful is meditation. A great way to get started with a meditation practice is using a guided meditation app like Calm or Headspace (there are many more). – Chris Cessna, LMFT
Staff Favorites from 2019
Favourite movie was…
Captain Marvel. It was inspriring to see a lead woman character overcome all the negative messages that females often face and portray a role filled with strength, perseverance and compassion. – Andee Woolf, LMFT
Bohemian Rhapsody. I was raised on Queen’s music, and have always felt a connection with Freddie Mercury. – Megan Holt-Hellner, DrPH, MPH, RD
Crazy Rich Asians: The movie is artistically beautiful: filled with color, music, and motion in a way that moves me. The cast is stunning and I’ll always pick a good love story. – Holly Kelley, LMFTTolkein – I loved learning about J.R. Tolkein’s life and the creation of one of my favorite book/movie series. I am also predicting that CATS the movie will be one of my favorites due to my love for cats and music combining to be my ultimate bliss! – Lauren Bryan, M.A, ASW [Supervised by Rebecca Ching, LMFT
Captain Marvel – I cried at the end – that last fight scene at the end just did me in – and loved watching it with my kids. Plus, I loved music was so fun. Bonus as this is not a movie and the series is not complete but The Morning Show is some of the most exquisite acting and conversations around gender, power, #metoo, relationships, and generational shifts. – Rebecca Ching, LMFT
Favorite book was…
The Harry Potter series. I read it for the first time and was struck by the themes of unconditional love, friendship and determination as well as how bodly it took on the themes of grief and loss. – Andee Woolf, LMFT
No real standouts this year in particular, but I did receive a copy of Permanent Record by Edward Snowden for Christmas, and I’m looking forward to reading that when time allows! – Megan Holt-Hellner, DrPH, MPH, RD
The Road Back to You and The Road Between Us: Diving a bit into the Enneagram this year helped immensely in understanding more about myself and my partner in a way that allowed me to be gracious with those areas of myself that feel frustrating at times and offers more compassion and curiosity in relationships with others. – Holly Kelley, LMFT
My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem — This book is a beautiful representation of how trauma can be stored in the body — transferring from generation to generation. – Lauren Bryan, M.A, ASW [Supervised by Rebecca Ching, LMFT]
I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown. I read this first in 2018 but re-read it this year and it just shook me, convicted me, and challenged me in the best ways and the hardest ways. Rebecca Ching, LMFT
Favorite song that made me braver in 2019 was…
Don’t Stop Me Now (again, a Queen song). This was one of many songs populating my playlist while giving birth to Olin, my son (born in May 2019), and it made me feel invincible! – Megan Holt-Hellner, DrPH, MPH, RD
What’s Up Danger (yes, from Spiderman Into the Spiderverse): In the context of the movie, What’s Up Danger plays as Miles (Spiderman) is stepping into himself as Spiderman. He does so not knowing where it will lead, but being confident that he is where he’s meant to be at that moment and knowing he isn’t alone in it. – Holly Kelley, LMFTSunshine by Tom Misch — because is brings me sunshine and dance moves for days. – Lauren Bryan, M.A, ASW [Supervised by Rebecca Ching, LMFT]Quiet by MILCK – I had not heard this 2017 song until I saw MILCK play this song live at a conference I attended last summer and I sung the chorus for weeks. Knowing the story about it and reflecting on the many brave women and men I know who dare not to keep quiet left me inspired and grounded.
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