Taking a break from the “F” bomb talk – Are you in?
Starting tomorrow – October 21-25, 2013 – the Tri-Delta Sorority is hosting their annual “Fat Talk Free Week”.
Fat talk is when you make negative comments about your body or the body of someone else and is way too common in our culture. In fact, a 2011 study noted 93% women engage in fat talk.
You have heard it and your probably have engaged in your own version of fat talk:“Friend 1: My thighs are so big. Friend 2: Oh my gosh. If your thighs are big, then mine are GINORMOUS.”
…and so it goes… the bonding over body bashing.
Fat Talk Free Week week may seem trivial, idealistic, even Pollyanna to some.
I have had many discussions with people on whether this type of awareness really makes a difference. I often hear something like the following:“Rebecca, you need to lighten up. It is normal for people to talk negative about their bodies. And even if people take a break from talking badly about their body, they still with have their negative thoughts and feelings.”
True. But I believe a break from the collective voice of toxic self-loathing and vitriol attacks on the looks of self and others could do all of us some good.
Is stopping fat talk a cure to negative body image and subsequent disordered eating?
But it is a movement I will gladly get behind because our words matter.
Never forget – people are listening to you what you have to say. You have power and impact on your surroundings with the words you choose to use when talking about yourself and others.
Do not underestimate the impact the off-hand comments you make about:
- the latest crashing+burning celebrity
- body changes in your friend
- displeasure with how you feel about your own body
Fat talk fuels disordered eating, eating disorders, orthorexia, bad body image, depression and anxiety by fueling distrust, disengagement and fear.
Measuring your personal health solely on the image in the mirror, the opinions of others, the number on the scale or the size of your pants is a slippery slope to a dark place.
Buying into the shame narrative perpetuated about the unrealistic ideal of beauty and health does not protect – it only binds you more to the belief you are not enough.
True health looks different for everyone. Draw on your courage and push back on the norm of comparing, competing and attacking with abandon.
Nothing good comes of fat talk. Its attempt to create ease and to seek validation infects everyone within hearing distance.
This week, set yourself apart from the crowds, the 93%, and take a break from the fat talk. Be an outlier.
Be a leader.
Change the conversation.
And join the movement to use your most powerful tool – your voice – and spend the next 5 days being mindful of how you talk about yourself and others.
Are you in?
This week we will feature some inspiring quotes on Potentia’s Facebook page. In addition, we will post some inspirational interviews here on the Potentia blog with friends of Potentia who are using the power of their voice to advocate for true health, true beauty and true worth.
Join the conversation and let us know your thoughts about fat talk and how it has impacted your life in the comments section below.
Cheering you on –