Make healthier choices.
Make safer choices.
Make wiser choices.
Make the right choice.
Make. a. choice.
Everyone has an opinion on how you should best live your life, what is healthy, what is holy, what is true.
Yet, if you delegate your life-compass to the opinions of the collective other, you will flounder. This delegating of our power of choice takes many forms:
If you use a diet as the foundation of your choices, you will be on a path to crazy-making.
If you let shame inform your choices, you will live a life of disconnection.
If you are a slave to chronic people-pleasing, you will be in constant despair.
If you are surrounded by unsafe people, you will be robbed of your dignity + your voice.
If you struggle with perfection, indecisiveness will emotionally paralyze you.
What is the basis by which you make your choices?
If your foundation for making choices is not clear and life-giving, then life may end up being quite difficult.
Do you make choices to get the approval of others? To get relief from pain? To get the best results? To simply just move on?
Choices bring up the fear of making the “wrong” decision. Sometimes the best choice is so, so clear. And often, choices can feel murky and overwhelming.
You can choose to do more of the same or something different. More of the same is often easier – for a while.
No matter what your circumstances, you always have a choice (though the choices before you may all be less-than desirable.)
Can you choose to tolerate disappointing others, the pressure of expectations, the fear of failure?
I do not know about you, but disappointing others, failing, unmet expectations have crushed me + leveled my sense of worth + left me doubting my ability to make the “right” choice.
My lack of trust in God and my inability to bench negative emotion left me wrestling for years with all the choices in front of me subsequently draining my peace + sense of purpose.
And then something changed. I did my own deep soul work. Deep. Soul. Work.
Because of this work, I am able to bench the fear of the unknown. This new super power strength led to my ability to manage a career change in my 30’s. It also helped me choose to be vulnerable and to fall in love + become a mom (which brought in a whole new slew of choices to stretch my new super powers.)
I started listening instead of reacting. Resting instead of fighting. Praying instead of always asking others for advice. I started to trust God and myself like never before.
It has been liberating finding my voice and choosing not to put my worth on the table for debate. It has been healing not to feel consumed by fear of losing control but instead grounded by the compass of Truth+Peace.
But it still gets gnarly at times. Heck, this whole growing and healing thing is a process that never ends – which is extremely annoying at times.
But the men and women I work with on a daily basis inspire me to press on and do the work I am challenging them to do. Not a day goes by without witnessing a client wrestling with the choice to turn away from harmful thoughts, actions, relationships.
I choose to try instead of striving for perfection.
I choose to risk failure instead of never taking a risk.
I choose to slow down and be proactive instead of reactive.
I choose to not hate myself and instead strive for self-grace.
I see my choices differently now.
Choices are Power. Clarity. Opportunity. Experience.
Can you choose to trust the small, healthy voice in you that encourages you to take a leap of faith; to take action; to choose to do something different?
Go… Stop… Say No… Say Yes…
Start… Finish… Create…
Rest… Nourish… Leave… Love.
What choices are you struggling with today? What one simple action can you take to today to tackle your challenging choices and turn the struggle into your super powers of clarity and power?
Choosing to live in faith instead of fear –